August 1, 2017

Why We Don’t Follow Our Intuition

If you have been working on listening to your intuition and learning how to follow that higher guidance, you know it’s not always easy. Our self-talk can speak louder than our intuitive wisdom at times and drown out simple direction and truths. Our intuition is a function our super-conscious mind and serves as a beacon for our well-being and spiritual growth.

Recently, I was reading The Baby Book, by Dr. William and Martha Sears, a favorite go-to book of mine for baby care. Dr. Sears says this about listening, “Infants whose language is listened to and whose needs are responded to appropriately learn to trust their environment, and trust is one of the earliest and most valuable brain-building blocks.”

Many books and old-school parenting styles taught (and still teach today) that we should let a baby “cry it out” and “not spoil them” or “not pick them up too much” but we know from peer reviewed studies that this is a detrimental approach to child-raising.

If we did not get a basic need met like being heard as a baby, beliefs that support self-doubt and mistrust are well-established very early in life. We learned how to question our needs and to forgo them to accommodate others. We also learned that we cannot trust those around us or ourselves when we need something critical to our well-being.

If we were mistreated, punished, or abused as a child, unworthiness and fear-based beliefs could have easily developed as a result. Fear-based beliefs are the subconscious mind’s way of keeping us physically and/or emotionally safe. Being afraid to use or listen to our intuition may stem from a need to feel safe. When intuitive wisdom doesn’t seem logical, responsible, or directly related to what we want, we question it out of fear and choose a “safer” route.

Intuition is not always logical nor does it seem to follow any type of rules or pattern. It can seem random, irrational, sporadic, impractical, and unpredictable. However, the incredible thing about intuition is just like a well-trained, muscle in the physical body, intuitive skills, when they are developed and followed, can be a powerful asset in your life.

Certainly, there are more personal reasons why we don’t follow our intuition but fear is the most common. See Fight, Flight, or Freeze? Fears Manifested! for how we respond to fear.

Intuition development is quickly becoming part of my personal and professional mission. I am seeing more and more how important it is to make decisions from a place of higher guidance instead of a thinking mind or even a feeling heart.  If you’ve been struggling with following or “hearing” intuitive guidance, make an appointment with me to find out why and let’s change that!